It’s OK Thursday, #10

So much to do, so little time. . .but I managed some time for blogging


It’s OK. . .

  • to be so happy for a day out of the office to go to a workshop. I love learning new things and hopefully meeting new people.
  • to be feeling good about my workouts, but sometimes it’s ok to take a few days off.
  • to be in love with my wedding dress . . . yes that means I bought one this weekend.
  • to be smile when you receive a text your fiancee telling you about good plans.
  • to look forward to birthday surprises.
  • that sometimes you just want to escape from the world.
  • to have a meltdown in front of the one person that actually knows how to make it better.

What’s OK with you this week?

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New job: Great first week!

As I mentioned a few weeks ago I was leaving my old organization and starting a new job. Well Monday (oct. 31) was my first day, yes on Halloween! Thankfully no tricks were played on me for my first day. It has been quite the crazy busy week. I spent most of my time in meetings, however I already got my first trip underway. My new position will require me to travel on occasion, but who knew so quickly. I have also had the opportunity to learn a lot of the business side, and not just the HR or Learning world, which is very refreshing. The Organizational Development team is really seen as instrumental in all things for this organization on both the people side and the business side. I am also excited because our President’s meeting is in town next week so I will have an opportunity to meet the President of the company (on week 2)!

It’s great to be learning so many new things and seeing how other organizations value their people!

An ounce of human decency

Sometimes I sit back and wonder where did decency go in the world? Are we all too rushed that we can’t take a minute to slow down, be courteous, hold a door, say thank you, or even just smile at a passing stranger? Actually I wonder the same thing about people we know, not just strangers! Many people I know comment on how since i am from NY i must be used to the rudeness, well let me tell you it’s not really rudeness in NY. It’s more people are busy and so it may seem rushed but typically they will hold a door, they will say your welcome and in fact they may even smile as they zoom past you!

In the past week or so I have wanted several times a reset button, and today AGAIN was one of those days. I started the deary morning as my usual cheery self, despite not a ounce of sunshine in the sky. After my comedy of errors over the weekend (which I will not detail for you) I was really no worse for the wear and in fact I squeezed out more than a few good moments EVERY day. Yes folks even in the dark clouds I can try to find that ounce of sunshine. So I made my breakfast, made my coffee, packed some snacks and off I went. I got the kind text message from a friend about the return of the pumpkin spice latte that made me smile, and as much as I hate the traffic I said “oh well it’s the first day back for so many and it’s raining.” I continued along my way, and BAM was rear-ended by a car. Thinking back to that moment I was so sure the driver was going to stop I didn’t even think being hit was a possibility. We weren’t going fast, I was slowing down, came to a stop, and BOOM, CRACK, under my car the little Honda Civic went. I guess the shining light in this incident was no one was hurt, except for the poor cars. The driver was nice enough, accepted blame, apologized, exchanged info, and off we went. Both my insurance company and the drivers have so far handled everything well. We will see when I bring my car in how much damage was done.

But I think to myself perhaps if the driver was paying attention this wouldn’t have happened. Or if the driver just slowed down sooner. But again it goes back to human decency and the lack of awareness others seem to have about their surroundings.

I just googled human decency and over 1,440,000 results came back! I guess I am not the only one that wonders where it’s gone.

Even in the work world I sometimes scratch my head and think “would your mother approve of what you just did’? I bet if more people asked themselves the question of “would I do this to my parent? my child? my best friend?” people would have a bit more human decency!

Are too many of us wrapped up in this digital age that we have lost the ability to interact outside of a computer? Do we not know how to introduce our self to someone we meet along the way? I guess I am typically seen as the smiley, happy, friendly person because I make an effort to just be nice. I will tell you from my own experiences it’s not that hard. Think of how nice it feels for someone to reach out and say “Hi, have a great day” or “Hi, how are you?” and actually mean it.

So my readers, do you wonder what’s happened to human decency? What do you do to contribute to a positive atmosphere? What can you do differently to make a difference?


earthquakes, hurricanes, oh my!

So it’s been a crazy week here in the DC area. We had an unprecedented earthquake on Tuesday 8/23 and then we are waiting for a hurricane to hit the area. All of this weather makes me think of preparedness and how unprepared so many people are to deal with a crisis or emergency. As I have mentioned before I work in HR and watching the reactions of individuals this week surprised me. Afterwards I kept having people thanking me for being “calm” in the crisis, and honestly it wasn’t that bad, I didn’t feel like we were in a crisis. I guess it does a lot to FREAK me out. I also know that if you panic nothing will get accomplished, and I have no problem taking charge, calming people down and figuring out what to do next.

Today as I prepare for the hurricane I was driving around and the roads were empty! I wonder if people evacuated this area to head further west for fear of the storm. I mean I am not hoping we loose power, but if we do than we make do. There really isn’t much you can do to counteract the weather. Remember it’s mother nature and it will just happen! I do get annoyed by people that don’t prepare at all though . . . like the people in my building leaving small items on their balconies, like flowers pots. That one’s easy people, do you really want to cause flying objects to crash into your glass doors.

Lots of people are having hurricane parties . . . I guess times like this it would be nice to have someone to hunker down with if nothing more than to pass the time. Kind of like the snow storms, I get bored easily after being alone for awhile. I think that’s part of the reason I went out to run errands. I wanted something to do before the weather gets bad.

What have you done to be prepared?


Such an easy thing right? Yet it has so many different ways to be interpreted or dealt with. For instances in a work setting what’s the appropriate time that a follow-up should happen? Is it all based on the situation? Working in HR I try to follow-up as quickly as possible (which reminds me I need to respond to an email), but at what point does quick follow-up deter from a well thought out response?

I waited nearly 24 hours to respond to a sensitive situation because I knew my first response probably would not be as effective as waiting. But I realize we are in an instant gratification society and we like things to happen immediately. I wonder what the feeling for the recipient is when it takes time for a response. I also am known for quick responses on most things, so when it takes longer for me to respond do you think the person is feeling like they are “in waiting”. Or thinking this can’t be good because she hasn’t responded.

Then there the dating game. Everything goes well, you discuss a next date, but yet no definite one is in place. When do you call/text the person? Do you wait the “3-day rule”? Is that even around any more? I feel like we are always waiting for the “right time” but who knows what that is anymore. Since we are in our 30’s do we really need to still play games? Or course many of us have probably seen the movie “He’s just not that into you” or watched “Millionaire Matchmaker” and know that if a guy really wants to follow-up with you he will, whether by calling, texting, emailing, hey maybe even sending that carrier piegon (thank you harry potter).